Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Rihanna to Rolling Stone regarding Chris Brown - I'd rather live my truth

Rihanna is on a roll this era. It seems as though she's on a new magazine cover every month. This time, it's Rolling Stone, and this interview may be the one many have been waiting for. Rihanna is gorgeous on the cover - but whats new? Her beautiful hazel eyes steal the attention right off, but a glance towards the bottom of the page and her story title jumps out at you, "Crazy in Love". Is she finally REALLY opening up about her and Chris Brown's relationship now?

While Rih hasn't been one to explain herself in recent interviews she was rather candid this time about her relationship with Chris. Rih Rih's recent decision to publicly reunite with ex boyfriend Chris Brown has carried much backlash from media and some fans alike. She tells RS that the ultimate reason she reconciled was for her own happiness above everything.

I wasn't going to let anybody's opinion get in the way of that. Even if it's a mistake, it's my mistake. After being tormented for so many years, being angry and dark, I'd rather just live my truth and take the backlash. I can handle it.. He made a mistake, and he's paid his dues..He's paid so much. And I know that's not a place he would ever want to go back to. And sometimes people need support and encouragement, instead of ridicule and criticism and bashing.

Boy has the backlash come! Not just for her, but for Chris as well, who Rihanna says is disgusted by his actions towards her in 2009. She explained that she didn't just jump back into a situation, but had to find some resolve within herself to know that this time would be different.
That's just not an option. I can't say that nothing else will ever go wrong. But I'm pretty solid in the knowing that he's disgusted by that. And I wouldn't have gone this far if I ever thought that was a possibility
As if opening up about it wasn't enough she went on to explain just how different their interactions are. She hints that at 19 their ability to communicate wasn't very good (who's is?). She suggests they've found better ways to communicate:
When you add up the pieces from the outside, it's not the cutest puzzle in the world. You see us walking somewhere, driving somewhere, in the studio, in the club, and you think you know. But it's different now. We don't have those types of arguments anymore. We talk about sh*t. We value each other. We know exactly what we have now, and we don't want to lose that.

While many people will focus solely on the negative statistics the truth is every individual is different. Their decision hasn't totally rubbed everybody the wrong way. Some of us realize our own imperfections and limitations. It's obvious they have the support of friends and family- follow any of their best friends or  relatives on social media sites and it's obvious that they support them. As for their fans, there's a whole fan base (and a darn solid one at that) who has had their backs throughout this whole time- Chrianna. Even some celebrities have stood up for Rihanna's decision- including Oprah surprisingly.

It is a touchy subject no doubt, but it doesn't have to be a negative one. Chris and Rihanna may just be the rare occurrence of a non repeat situation. We don't know, as much as we'd like to speak as if we do. Most importantly in this situation is their resolve to live their truths and focus on their happiness which can be so easily stripped away when you're a huge celebrity.

I say, as I've always said that the public's response can be as passionate in either direction about their reconciliation as we'd like, but- the decision, the life, the relationship, the mistake (if it is one) belongs to Chris and Rihanna. I personally wish them the very best. I know that people make mistakes in their youth, and sometimes it takes you being stripped of some things to learn their true value.

I'm happy that Rihanna is deciding in this moment to stand up for herself - so much of her life is for the public, she deserves to be able to own her heart.


  1. u know what. im having a change of heart. i was so against them back together but ure right kakyi its not up to us. nobody wants to be miserable especially when they have real eyes and ears in a situation we just trying to understand from the outside. chris is blessed to have this gift of a woman in his life who is willing to stand by him through this. gods favor is all over him in this way, i hope he realize that.